Information for Crossdressers, Transvestites, Transsexuals, and Other Transgendered Folks

About This Site

Do we really need another site of the web giving us the same ol' information about and for crossdressera vague term because it is used in so many ways. In a basic form, it can be used of someone (again, a male) who likes to wear clothes of the opposite sex, but not for sexual gratification (like the TV), often to ease gender discomfort. On this site, we use it as a more generic term for any male who, for any reason, prefers wearing what are traditionally considered womens clothes. Crossdressers want to appear as convincing as possible as their other selves. A large portion of this group have otherwise ordinary marriages with wives who are not transgendered. Many say this term is preferable to transvestite, which means the same thing., transvestiteGenerally someone who wears clothes of the opposite sex. According to the medical community, this applies only to males. It also typically includes sexual gratification as an underlying reason., transsexualSomeone who desires to live as a member of the opposite sex. There are both males who want to live as women and females who want to live as men. You may see the abbreviations "M2F" (or "MtF" for Male to Female) or F2M (or "FtM" for Female to Male). Dr. Harry Benjamin's Sexual Orientation Scale (SOS) defines three types of TS's: Type 4, referring to those for whom surgery is usually not indicated;; Type 5, which is for those for whom surgery may be indicated; and Type 6, which is generally those whose dysphoria can only be relieved through surgical intervention. , and other transgenderGeneric term used of anyone who exhibits personality traits generally accepted as belonging to the opposite sex. people? I have to be honest, probably not. So why have I started this site? Well, there are two reasons. First, I like to organize things my own way because there can always be more sites devoted to education about these people. (Yes, I realize that I could be working on this site the rest of my life.) The second reason is more selfish; I hope to lead you somewhere if you stick with me.

Who am I to be so bold about such things? Well, if you want a long and boring story about a crossdressera vague term because it is used in so many ways. In a basic form, it can be used of someone (again, a male) who likes to wear clothes of the opposite sex, but not for sexual gratification (like the TV), often to ease gender discomfort. On this site, we use it as a more generic term for any male who, for any reason, prefers wearing what are traditionally considered womens clothes. Crossdressers want to appear as convincing as possible as their other selves. A large portion of this group have otherwise ordinary marriages with wives who are not transgendered. Many say this term is preferable to transvestite, which means the same thing. (actually transsexualSomeone who desires to live as a member of the opposite sex. There are both males who want to live as women and females who want to live as men. You may see the abbreviations "M2F" (or "MtF" for Male to Female) or F2M (or "FtM" for Female to Male). Dr. Harry Benjamin's Sexual Orientation Scale (SOS) defines three types of TS's: Type 4, referring to those for whom surgery is usually not indicated;; Type 5, which is for those for whom surgery may be indicated; and Type 6, which is generally those whose dysphoria can only be relieved through surgical intervention. ), then you might want to check my story on the web. So I am one of the people who are talked about on the various sites devoted to the topic.

For those who might be offended by my loose use of the term "crossdressera vague term because it is used in so many ways. In a basic form, it can be used of someone (again, a male) who likes to wear clothes of the opposite sex, but not for sexual gratification (like the TV), often to ease gender discomfort. On this site, we use it as a more generic term for any male who, for any reason, prefers wearing what are traditionally considered womens clothes. Crossdressers want to appear as convincing as possible as their other selves. A large portion of this group have otherwise ordinary marriages with wives who are not transgendered. Many say this term is preferable to transvestite, which means the same thing.," please keep this mind: One of the bad ways we use labels is to stratify the community. In order for any of us to survive, we need to be a united community. A TGGeneric term used of anyone who exhibits personality traits generally accepted as belonging to the opposite sex. is neither "better" nor "worse" than a CDa vague term because it is used in so many ways. In a basic form, it can be used of someone (again, a male) who likes to wear clothes of the opposite sex, but not for sexual gratification (like the TV), often to ease gender discomfort. On this site, we use it as a more generic term for any male who, for any reason, prefers wearing what are traditionally considered womens clothes. Crossdressers want to appear as convincing as possible as their other selves. A large portion of this group have otherwise ordinary marriages with wives who are not transgendered. Many say this term is preferable to transvestite, which means the same thing.; we are just at different points on our genderA psychological distinction. For the purposes of this site, we pretty much limit its sub-definition to one's preferred social presentation (i.e. the way someone wants society to perceive them). Gender can also be defined in many other ways, such as sex partner choice or sex role preference. The preferred terms are masculine and feminine or, less so, man and woman. journey.

Do You Hate Crossdressers?

One quick bit of business, if you don't mind the interruption: If you are one of those people who think all males who wear women's clothes are sick, twisted, and perverted, please stop now and go elsewhere. I'm willing to bet my life that you have just as many issues in your life as we do, so there is no point in judging us (Romans 2:1). There is ample evidence that these conditions are there at birth and they may be even exacerbated by society's pressures. And don't try to tell me that the Bible says it's a sin -- there is NOT ONE verse in the Bible that supports that claim!

"It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you're not." (André Gide)

Okay, now back to our regularly scheduled program...

"Wherever a man is against his will, that is his prison." (Epictetus)

Not all crossdressers feel like "a woman trapped in a man's body." But many of us (notably transsexuals) do. It's not a terribly good description of the problem. The quote above is actually a better description of our torment.

Our "birth defect" (i.e. having a Y chromosome) is a prison that is very hard for others to understand. We can only attempt to explain how we feel and hope that something will click with you that will give you a glimmer of the anguish we face on a daily basis.

"If there is a defect on the soul, it cannot be corrected on the face. But if there is a defect on the face, and one corrects it, it can correct a soul."  - Jean Cocteau (1859-1963)

Remember that to "love your neighbors as your self," you must love yourself first. I forget who said it, but "the goal of life is to be able to sit in a room alone and enjoy the company." You can do it.

Work In Progress

This site will be a work in progress, sometimes fast, usually slow. New things will pop up here as I have time to devote to them.